SUPPORTING SOMEONE WITH DEPRESSION

 I often have clients tell me people think they can “snap out of it” and feel better.  That they have total power over how they are feeling and can control all of their symptoms.  The report that they are viewed as weak since they feel depressed.  This is like telling someone with cancer to just think differently and it will go away.  While it is true that not everyone who is depressed needs medication, it is not as simple as just deciding to think differently.  Challenging one’s own thinking is a powerful tool in treating depression but it is just one tool.  And it can be hard.  Depression can make one feel like nothing will work and one will never feel better.  It can make one feel like happiness is unattainable.

If someone in your life is depressed, here are some ways to help:

1. Be there to listen
2. Continue to engage them in conversations or activities even if they always say no
3. Ask if they have thoughts of suicide or self harm and if they do, connect them with a resource to help (BHR 1-800-811-4760, call 911, ER)
4. Give them a hug (if they want one)
5. Be okay with them coming to an activity and not be very engaged.  Just the act of coming is a win!
6. Suggest a therapist or psychiatrist if you know of one