Fight Song by Rachel Platten https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xo1VInw-SKc
If I Was a Boy by Beyoncé https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AWpsOqh8q0M
Beautiful by Christina Aguilera https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eAfyFTzZDMM
Better Man by Little Big Town https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ph9NQ8ASmX4
Praying by Kesha https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v-Dur3uXXCQ
Holes in the Floor of Heaven by Steve Wariner https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=axoeGUI24VY
He Didn't Have to Be by Brad Paisley https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BjO1F6oCab8
These are just some of the songs that speak to me. In different situations, I need music. I am not musically inclined at all. I can't sing well, play an instrument, or read music. I can, though, listen and appreciate. In sitting down to write this blog, I only picked a few but I could list even more songs that speak a message that I've needed to hear or a client needed to hear. It can be therapeutic and helpful.
I have clients that can play an instrument, sing, and write. I encourage this as it can help so much. Music speaks to most of us in one way or another if you let it.
From time to time, the therapists at Sandhill post a song on our Facebook page that speak to them one way or another. Check it out.
What songs speak to you?
If you give them an inch, they will take a mile.
I think about this saying every time I see an elementary child with his or her hair colored. I think about it when young kids have numerous ear piercings. I think about it when elementary kids are allowed to play rated M video games. I think about it when kids are allowed to watch mature shows.
You see, if kids are allowed to do certain behavior at a young age, they often will find other, riskier behaviors when older. It is "normal" for kids, adolescents, and teens to find ways to push the envelope. They want to find ways to express themselves as individuals and to (consciously or not) push the boundaries of what is acceptable. Often it seems they want to drive their parents crazy! I fear that when we allow children to engage in behaviors that are designed for older youth, we are giving them a mile and therefore they must take 10 miles.
I will add that I coloring one's hair for Halloween or a special event with wash out color is viewed differently by the kids so is not the same. But when a kid is allowed to permanently color their hair at age 8, what is the next step when they are 13?
JENNIFER EULBERG, MA, LPC
Welcome Jennifer, our new blogger!
Jennifer is a counselor at Sandhill who specializes in depression, self-esteem, and grief & loss. Get to know Jennifer as she shares her perspectives on life, contemplates value themes, and offers gentle encouragement.
THANK YOU to Stefanie Pisarkiewicz, LPC for her blog contributions from November 2014 - February 2019!