My son made honor roll.
My daughter was elected Student Body president.
My kids made the select basketball team.
My spouse was promoted at work.
Bragging about one’s kids on Facebook is a great thing. Most of the time I love reading about positive things going on in other people’s lives. It helps me say connected and I like knowing successes that are out there. At times, though, it makes me jealous. My kids struggle with mental illness and that causes behavioral issues. We all work hard to cope. That doesn’t mean we don’t have successes, it just looks different for us. For example, the day at school may have started with my son throwing something and screaming but then he cooled down and had a “successful” rest of the day. This is a win for us. Would that be an appropriate brag though on Facebook?
Your kid may have passed all her classes for the first time in years-a win! You may have finally gone to a therapist for help with a struggle-another win. Your kid made it through a whole soccer game without having a tantrum-woohoo. Or the whole family went to Six Flags and everyone was nice to each other the whole time-this just happened for us and was definitely a win.
So is it appropriate to share these types of wins on Facebook? I think that if it is a successful for you and it won’t embarrass anyone in the post, it is okay to post it. I believe you need to be careful in your wording though. Best report card in years (with a picture of your kid)=good post. My daughter finally passed all her classes=negative post because it may shame her. Junior made it through the whole game relatively happily=positive post. Junior didn’t though a tantrum the whole game=negative post.
What do you think?
I wrote a blog in November about needing a trip with just my husband. Well, we took it. I wanted to reflect on it a little.
David and I went to Branson and Silver Dollar City for the weekend. We dropped the kids off at school Friday morning and then hit the road. My older sister and brother in law graciously watched them for us. My best friend dropped them off at their house after school.
It was a very strange car ride. No arguing, no “how long till we get there,” and no “I’m hungry.” I’d like to say no bathroom breaks but I needed one;)
We arrived in Branson around lunch time and went right to Silver Dollar City. It was very strange again. We went to whatever rides we wanted and if a line was too long, we just went somewhere else. We shopped at all the little craft stations set up and went to the presentations on cast iron pots. We ate when we were hungry and the bill was small compared to what we were used to. It was a very different experience than traveling with children.
Once checked in at the hotel, we walked to some antique stores and looked around. We then came back, watched tv shows of our choices, and had some grown up time;)
The biggest thing David and I noticed was that the whole trip was much quieter than we were used to. We found ourselves frequently just holding hands and walking around in silence; simply enjoying each other’s company.
The second biggest difference was our agenda was really no agenda. That is not something that can frequently work when our three kids are with us.
I feel the weekend was much needed and we definitely need to do it more often!
JENNIFER EULBERG, MA, LPC
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Jennifer is a counselor at Sandhill who specializes in depression, self-esteem, and grief & loss. Get to know Jennifer as she shares her perspectives on life, contemplates value themes, and offers gentle encouragement.
THANK YOU to Stefanie Pisarkiewicz, LPC for her blog contributions from November 2014 - February 2019!