“Excuse me. Excuse me, please. EXCUSE ME!”
I am constantly saying this to my three (almost four) year old. She follows me EVERYWHERE! You may think I’m exaggerating but I’m not. If I am at home, she is very, very close by. This has been going on for at least six months. It really drives me nuts at this point. I cannot walk across the room without her getting up and doing the same. And this next part might sound awful: She is driving me nuts saying “I love you” all the time. I mean at least ten times an evening. And I must respond within a half a second with “I love you more” and then she says “I love you most.” Again, this is done over and over again.
Don’t get me wrong, I do love my child. I love that she loves me but man it is hard to have to say it ALL THE TIME! If I don’t answer right away, she repeats herself. If I try to have a minute by myself, she says “But I miss you!”
When I’m not at home, she doesn’t do this to her dad. When with other family, she is perfectly content hanging out by herself watching a show or playing with some toys. She is only glued to me.
I’m dealing with it though. I know this too shall pass. One day she may not even want to tell me she loves me anymore (and how sad I will be). So, I take some deep breathes and say “I love you” or “Excuse me”. Sometimes I go for a walk. She is sad when I do this, but is fine a minute after I’m gone (per my husband).
But I do have to remind myself to take the snuggles and I love yous while I can.
JENNIFER EULBERG, MA, LPC
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Jennifer is a counselor at Sandhill who specializes in depression, self-esteem, and grief & loss. Get to know Jennifer as she shares her perspectives on life, contemplates value themes, and offers gentle encouragement.
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