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Transitions Can Be Hard

8/24/2015

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Transitions can be hard.  Change is often scary.  Sometimes you think the changes are going by smoothly and then Wham!, not so much.

My youngest recently started preschool.  She was so excited to start.  A few weeks before she started putting snacks in her book bag in order to be ready.  (The dogs loved that!)  The night before she was walking around with her book bag on her back.  She woke me and my husband up on the first day and announced “I go to school today!” 

When we arrived to the classroom, another student was crying and running for the door.  My little one looked at us in confusion.  We explained he was just scared and that the teacher will take care of him.  We asked her to be extra nice to him.  For a split second there I thought she was going to cry but then it passed.  We hugged, kissed, and went our separate ways. 

She came home loving school.  She told us she sang songs, played, and loved it. 

The next time she had school, she again easily went. 

Then something happened.   The next morning when my husband dropped her off she didn’t want him to go.  She said “I just want to be with you.”  After some hugs, kisses, and reassurances Daddy left. 

When my husband called to tell me the story, something clicked.  For the past few weeks, she had been waking up at night to come try and sleep with us and saying she just wanted to be with me.  (We let her sleep on the floor). 

Her unusual bedtime routine was a signal that she was nervous about what was coming.  Now she was doing it during the day. 

Today I was cleaning up something and she followed me around.  She often does this but then came the familiar “I just want to be with you.”  Part of me wanted to hug her and snuggle all night.  The other part of me wanted to scream “I need some space!” 

I did neither.  I told her that I was with her but that I had to finish my chores.  She could stay by me but she could not be right on top of me or be touching me (as I wouldn’t be able to get anything done with her hanging on me). 

She stayed with me for a little while but then ran to play when she heard her brother and sister doing something fun. 

I know what I can expect tonight though.  And I know extra hugs and kisses will be in store before bed.  We also are setting up a reward chart to help her stay sleeping in her own bed again. 

She loves school but transitions are hard. 


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Like a Girl

8/10/2015

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Picture(I couldn’t help putting this Meme in. Don’t mean any offense to men-just making a joke).
Like a Girl!

Growing up I was the “boy” in my family.  What I mean is that being one of three daughters, I was the tomboy.  I didn’t want to wear dresses, putting a ponytail in my hair was a challenge, and frequently my friends were boys.   When it came time to do stereotypically boy chores, guess who got them; me!  From time to time it was said that I was the boy.  Somehow I never minded.   I never questioned why those things were labeled boy.

As I became older though, I started minding when I was told I was doing something “like a girl.”  It was an insult!   And everyone (from parents to peers, male or female) said it at some point.   They wanted you to do something better or stronger or with less emotion.

There is a campaign that I’ve seen a few times before that I love.  Check it out: http://always.com/en-us/about-us/our-epic-battle-like-a-girl

One video I especially love:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XjJQBjWYDTs

Here it asks people to perform a task like a girl.   When I first watched it, I saw what I expected to see-people acting all wimpy (I almost wrote girly-how bad it that) and sub par.  It made me a little sad and mad but then we see some awesome young girls.  They perform they best they can.   And I’m sure their best is better than some boys. 

The video asks when did saying something was “like a girl” became an insult.  I say that doesn’t even matter.  What matters is how we can make it stop.   

I make an effort with all three of my children (two girls and a boy) to have equal opportunity for activities, chores, toys, etc.  I also watch how I talk around them.  I have been guilty of saying “Don’t act girly.”  I’m making an effort to stop.  It is hard when I’ve grown up with hearing girl used negatively, but I have to try.   We all have to try.

 I want my children to be strong, independent, individuals and to go after whatever they want.  I don’t want my girls to suffer the same fate as many adolescent and teenage girls do; that of low self esteem.  Once puberty kicks in, girls self esteem tends to drop.  They also tend to drop out of activities due to this.  I’m betting one cause is feeling that being “like a girl” is bad.  Help me to change that!  



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    JENNIFER EULBERG, MA, LPC

    ​Welcome Jennifer, our new blogger!
     Jennifer is a counselor at Sandhill who specializes in depression, self-esteem, and grief & loss. Get to know Jennifer as she shares her perspectives on life, contemplates value themes, and offers gentle encouragement. 

    THANK YOU to Stefanie Pisarkiewicz, LPC for her blog contributions from November 2014 - February 2019!

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