No matter what you call it, I don’t like it. From time to time I read blogs on why people cuss and why it is okay. It is for them, but not for me. I wanted to explore the other side. I’m an adult who does not curse and has never cursed (okay one time I said the b-word when asking someone to not call me it).
I have a few reasons why I do not curse and why I do not like others to curse when talking to me.
First, I think it makes the speaker sound unintelligent. Most of the time there are better words that can really convey their feelings. Clients curse in session at times (which, of course, I don’t mind) and sometimes I push a little to see if other words could paint a better picture.
Secondly, I grew up in a household where my mom cursed a lot (and I mean a lot). This was not pleasant for me or my siblings. I understand that profanity is not always meant to be offensive but hearing it so regularly made it offensive to me.
Lastly, I feel it often makes others angry. Calling someone a curse word is a lot different than calling someone, say, a jerk. It makes people become more irrational quickly.
Again, if you are okay with cursing, go right ahead. Please just try not to do it with me.
I’ll add that when injured, I do yell out, but not a cuss word. When I’m angry, I have been known to call names (i.e. turkey butt, butt munch) although what I call others tends to bring a laugh, which decreases the tension.
JENNIFER EULBERG, MA, LPC
Welcome Jennifer, our new blogger!
Jennifer is a counselor at Sandhill who specializes in depression, self-esteem, and grief & loss. Get to know Jennifer as she shares her perspectives on life, contemplates value themes, and offers gentle encouragement.
THANK YOU to Stefanie Pisarkiewicz, LPC for her blog contributions from November 2014 - February 2019!