Boys wearing nail polish.
Or dressing as Elsa.
Or even wearing a tutu.
I recent read this article: http://www.scarymommy.com/mom-defends-her-son-for-wearing-tutu/ I loved it! I wish I could say I was surprised by the stranger becoming upset in seeing the boy in the tutu, but I wasn’t.
As many of you know, I have two girls and a boy. Sometimes when my girls are doing something stereo-typically for girls, my son joins in. My husband and I have never had a problem with this. Recently I was painting the girls’ nails in the bathroom. My first grader son came in and asked to have his nails painted too. I let him know I would paint them but did warn him some at school might tease him. (It makes me sad that that is true, but the fact is, it is a fact). He said that was okay. We talked about how he could stand up for himself if he was teased. My eldest daughter said a boy in her class recently had nail polish on and said it was because an older sibling painted them while he was sleeping, and suggested her brother could tell others that happened to him. I smiled to myself at that explanation because I bet the boy just liked wearing nail polish. I mean, if he did not, he could easily have removed it. I told my son that he did not need to have an excuse like that for why he was wearing polish. He could say “I like it” and “it is not okay to tease me” if teasing occurred. I am happy to report, nothing really occurred from my son wearing the polish.
I do have some family members that think it is wrong to let my son do things like wear polish. I don’t understand why. Since I was a teenager I can remember certain male celebrities wearing nail polish. I think often the issue is it somehow effects there masculinity but it didn’t effect whether or not I found the celebrity attractive. In my opinion, if you don’t like my son or want to hang out with him because he is wearing nail polish, you probably are not the kind of friend he needs anyways.
JENNIFER EULBERG, MA, LPC
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Jennifer is a counselor at Sandhill who specializes in depression, self-esteem, and grief & loss. Get to know Jennifer as she shares her perspectives on life, contemplates value themes, and offers gentle encouragement.
THANK YOU to Stefanie Pisarkiewicz, LPC for her blog contributions from November 2014 - February 2019!