I saw an article recently that talked about how important it is to go to kids' events (sports games, concerts, recitals, etc). It pointed out how much this means to kids and how the child looks for the parents to be there. I agree it is important to go to your children's events but we don't need to go to all of their events. For one thing, if you have more than one child, eventually things will overlap. For another, many parents work hours that make attending events regularly impossible.
Growing up, my stepdad always worked second or third shift. He usually had Saturday and Sunday off. This meant that any event on a weeknight, he had to miss. I would, of course, know that he was not going to attend because I knew he had to work. I was never disappointed by this as I knew he was doing what needed to be done. My mom attended events but for things like sports, she was clueless. I looked forward to the weekend and talking to my dad and filling him in on how the game went. He showed interest in what I had done and that is what mattered to me.
I also know families where both parents work shifts that make them miss events. But again, asking about the event later and showing interest shows that the parents care.
I write this blog because I want parents to know that it is okay to not attend all events. Life is hectic! You can connect with your kids in other ways.
JENNIFER EULBERG, MA, LPC
Welcome Jennifer, our new blogger!
Jennifer is a counselor at Sandhill who specializes in depression, self-esteem, and grief & loss. Get to know Jennifer as she shares her perspectives on life, contemplates value themes, and offers gentle encouragement.
THANK YOU to Stefanie Pisarkiewicz, LPC for her blog contributions from November 2014 - February 2019!