It’s hard to be a parent. I think more so now than ever (although I bet every generation has felt that way). Social media has put a lot of pressure on us to have it all together. We post our cute pictures, we share our family’s accomplishments, and we try to find creative ways to share the news. It can make it appear that everything is going great. It can make it seem as though others have it all. It can make you think that something must be wrong with your family because you can’t say all those things about your kids.
Here are some things to tell yourself when you feel that way:
1. People are not (or shouldn’t be) putting their “dirty laundry” on social media so you’re not seeing everything!
2. Lots of people are not responsible with their money. Many Americans live their lives on credit (I used to). So they may seem like they have everything but they probably they don’t really own all of it. Think about this they could be paying for that amazing vacation for the next ten years!
3. You have positive things going on in your family, the bad just might be making it hard to see. For example, maybe you kid never earns anything higher than a C but is an amazing artist. Why not post a picture of something she created? Or maybe your kid is awesome with computers, did something kind, or is able to get up every morning and get ready for school with no problems. These are all brag-worthy on social media.
4. Don’t use social media if it makes you negative towards yourself and your family. It is not vital to life (as much as it seems to be).
This all applies to your kids too!!!
JENNIFER EULBERG, MA, LPC
Welcome Jennifer, our new blogger!
Jennifer is a counselor at Sandhill who specializes in depression, self-esteem, and grief & loss. Get to know Jennifer as she shares her perspectives on life, contemplates value themes, and offers gentle encouragement.
THANK YOU to Stefanie Pisarkiewicz, LPC for her blog contributions from November 2014 - February 2019!