I think parents who have daughter’s with long hair would relate. Jane hates having her hair brushed. She frequently brushes the front pieces and says she is done. So I went into this already frustrated because we have had many talks about what she needs to do. (And fyi I have given her leave in conditioner and detangle spray.) And yet, I did wrong and needed to apologize.
I should have followed the blog I wrote earlier Teaching Our Kids (and Ourselves) How to Handle Anger.
When I noticed Jane becoming frustrated (when she stomped her feet), I should have immediately walked away to cool down. I know that when she is angry we are not going to get anything accomplished. Plus, her behavior made me angry so I need to regroup.
After I yelled at her I walked away and immediately realized I did the wrong thing. I then used some cool thoughts and took some deep breaths. I walked back to her and said “I’m sorry. I shouldn’t have yelled at you.” I then told her I loved her. She hugged me back and told me loved me. I then told her she still needs to brush her hair. She let me.