No matter what you call it, I don’t like it. From time to time I read blogs on why people cuss and why it is okay. It is for them, but not for me. I wanted to explore the other side. I’m an adult who does not curse and has never cursed (okay one time I said the b-word when asking someone to not call me it).
I have a few reasons why I do not curse and why I do not like others to curse when talking to me.
First, I think it makes the speaker sound unintelligent. Most of the time there are better words that can really convey their feelings. Clients curse in session at times (which, of course, I don’t mind) and sometimes I push a little to see if other words could paint a better picture.
Secondly, I grew up in a household where my mom cursed a lot (and I mean a lot). This was not pleasant for me or my siblings. I understand that profanity is not always meant to be offensive but hearing it so regularly made it offensive to me.
Lastly, I feel it often makes others angry. Calling someone a curse word is a lot different than calling someone, say, a jerk. It makes people become more irrational quickly.
Again, if you are okay with cursing, go right ahead. Please just try not to do it with me.
I’ll add that when injured, I do yell out, but not a cuss word. When I’m angry, I have been known to call names (i.e. turkey butt, butt munch) although what I call others tends to bring a laugh, which decreases the tension.
Stefanie F. Pisarkiewicz, LPC
Experience and information from a counselor and mother- sharing her two cents on children and teens.