Friendly. Smart. Athletic. Creative.
These are all words most of us would love to have describe us. But there is one missing: attractive! I have never met a person that does not want to feel others find them attractive. Unfortunately, though, I have met many who do not feel that they are attractive. Some will say that it is not a big deal and that it doesn’t really matter. And they are right in thinking that it doesn’t really matter if other people find them attractive, but it does matter if they find themselves attractive.
We all need to be able to look in the mirror and like what we see. Of course, we don’t have to like everything we see (I definitely don’t like the size of my waist right now) but overall we need to find a way to love our own appearance. I encourage everyone to take some time to look in a mirror and identify what they really like about their physical characteristics. You may need to start small: maybe your eyebrows, maybe your cheekbones, maybe the height of your legs, or the color of your hair. Then build from there.
I have seen confidence increase and smiles grow as people start recognizing there attractive qualities. And guess what, confidence makes people even more attractive.
I’ll add, there will always be people who will find you unattractive. And they will always be people who find you attractive. Beauty really is in the eye of the beholder. But the bottom line is, YOU need to find YOU attractive.
Stefanie F. Pisarkiewicz, LPC
Experience and information from a counselor and mother- sharing her two cents on children and teens.