Our dominant love languages are somewhat opposite of each other therefore, we need to make sure we are speaking the other person’s love language. I could spend a whole day cleaning the house till it sparkles but that does not communicate love to my husband. I need to make sure there is time for him in order to communicate love. He could spend a whole day with me but if I come home and one of his chores is not done, I can be really bothered and upset. In recognizing each other’s dominant love languages, we have been able to work on speaking the others more often and having a better understanding of how we are expressing love.
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Children and teens have a dominant love language too. Although they need to have all love languages spoken to them more than adults do. I highly recommend The Five Love Languages for Children book that explains it really well.
I want to give an example of how I work to use all the love languages even though they do not all come naturally to me. My kids are cuddlers, snugglers, and huggers. They LOVE positive physical touch. I did not grow up in a household with much positive touch. Even hugging seems somewhat foreign to me. I recognize, though, that my kids really need this. (Note I said need, not want). So, I push through some of my discomfort and hug, snuggle, and cuddle frequently. In fact, as I’m typing this, my youngest is practically on my lap snuggling. Sometimes I do tell my kids I need a break but usually just a short one. In the long run, it will make my kids feel loved and I know one day they won't want to touch so much.
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